August 25, 2004
Yet another reason . . .
. . . why I love my wife -- well, I'll get to that in a minute. First, you need a little background. Here's the thing: I've known and observed a lot of teachers over the years, but I don't know anyone better at teaching small children than my wife. Among other locations, she taught for a few years in a run-down school in Detroit. Most of her students had only one parent at home, if that many. There were few resources, management was awful, and the curriculum imposed from above warrants a prison sentence for several Ph.D.'s in some university Education Department somewhere.
But she made it work. Her children scored in the upper 90th percentiles on the math and verbal sections of the CAT test, while the rest of the city languished in the 60's (the latter an inflated number because of cheating by teachers and administrators, if what she witnessed in her school was an indication of behavior elsewhere).
She gave her children equal measures of love and discipline, and they loved her in return. She excels at teaching, for reasons I don't fully understand. She makes it look as easy, like Michael Jordan used to do for basketball.
But the realities which render me the breadwinner and her the homebound mother are:
1) I can earn far more being pretty good at what I do than she can earn despite being among the best at what she does; and,
2) She is better at the daily tasks of training and teaching our children than I will ever be.
So she stays home, and our family is better for it.
And now to my original point. Today she got a letter from the county government. It's a "Jury Questionnaire," intended to determine whether the recipient belongs among the pool of people who might be summoned in the coming year to pass judgment on their fellow citizens. Among the data requested are "occupation" and "employer."
My wife's answers:
EMPLOYER: God and my husband
Don't you just love this woman?
Posted by Woodlief on August 25, 2004 at 10:12 PM
Congratluations Tony, looks like you found a good one!
Posted by: Robin Munn at August 25, 2004 10:21 PM
I was largely apolitical when my first child was born. By the time my second came around, I was political enough to write "Human" on some form in the space next to where it asked "Race:".
The nurse got a good chuckle.
Posted by: Tim at August 25, 2004 11:21 PM
You may be one of the two best friends I have in this world, but your wife holds the title of my oldest friend, ain't that right, C?
Posted by: Shawn at August 26, 2004 8:41 AM
Good thing I didn't listen when you told me she was out of my league, eh?
Posted by: Tony at August 26, 2004 1:07 PM
Thank God for stay-at-home moms and homemakers! Every once in awhile I wonder about the material things we are missing out on (since my wife is a full-time homemaker), but as the Lord blesses us we'll keep going the way we are.
Please continue to encourage others of the benefits of having a stay-at-home mom/wife. I wouldn't mind being a house-husband (like Lileks) myself!
Posted by: MarcV at August 26, 2004 1:22 PM
Yes; thanks for sharing... and for calling her "my wife" rather than "the wife," though I suspect you do it for effect and a hope at objection (and, btw, you slipped up the other day). :-)
I wonder what she'd say about you if she wrote for a day?
Posted by: SLC at August 26, 2004 6:54 PM
Let's not go putting ideas into anyone's head.
Posted by: Tony at August 27, 2004 7:32 AM
"May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer--may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love."
Posted by: John at August 31, 2004 12:21 AM
wow. Sounds like you have yourself one mighty fine woman.
Posted by: Chad at September 1, 2004 3:59 AM
Today (September 1) I saw the picture of your family in the left frame. You're a good-looking crew. I can see why you're a very happy family man.
When the next Woodlief comes along, we'll have to see an updated family shot.
Posted by: bob_l at September 1, 2004 11:54 PM