October 16, 2007
As I step out the door with Eli Saturday for our weekly trip to his violin instructor, he has his little violin case slung over one shoulder, and his sighted underlever cocking cowboy rifle over the other. In his hands he clutches an apple and a granola bar. He sits directly behind me in my truck. He crunches his apple and his granola bar.
We are comfortable with each other, Eli and me. Sometimes on these drives he has a lot to say, other times he is quiet. Today he is content to crunch and swallow, crunch and swallow. I am content to listen to him. I don't understand the feeling of completeness that washes over me when I hear my children eat, or when I lean over them in their sleep and listen to them breathe.
We are waiting at a stoplight now, at a busy intersection, and suddenly Eli stops crunching. I hear him pick up his rifle, cock it, and fire. One shot: clack. He puts the rifle down. He resumes crunching.
"What did you shoot, little man?"
"Oh." I look to our right and see an advertisement for the Halloween stores that are ubiquitous in low-rent storefront space this time of year. He just took out their giant poster of a mournful Frankenstein's monster. I think the monster probably appreciated it.
"You just needed the one shot?"
"Yep." crunch crunch crunch
We drive on our way. Eli is an observant boy. I suspect he saw that poster the last time we drove this way, and made a mental note to bring his shooting iron next time. And that's the thing about Eli there's no bluster beforehand, no bragging afterward; he just brings his rifle, takes one shot to get the job done, and goes back to his apple, gentle as ever.
As I drive, I think about how I want to be like Eli when I grow up. I pray that I don't undo whatever it is that has knit him together so tenderhearted and relentless all at once. I wonder what the world would be like, were more men like that.
Posted by Woodlief on October 16, 2007 at 07:36 AM
You hit the nail on the head - men who can handle the violin or the rifle, a la Jack Aubrey in Master and Commander (I guess that would be cello and saber, but close enough). As a father to two daughters, I wrestle with how to raise them in a world facing a shortage of young Eli's.
Posted by: TWilson at October 16, 2007 8:08 AM
Our children are effective teachers if we will just listen.
Thanks for the reminder.
Posted by: Jody Scott at October 16, 2007 8:36 AM
Tell Eli the following:
That's right fine shootin' pardner. Reckon I could use a man like you. I'll bring my sam-yew-rye sword, and you and me will do a little gentlin' of the goblins. ;)
Posted by: MMM at October 16, 2007 8:45 AM
TWilson, I'm a father of two daughters also, but also a father-in-law to two Eli's. Two suggestions: First, love your wife the way you'd want an Eli to love your daughter. Your daughters will learn far more from watching you and your mom than from anything either of you say. Second, love your daughters so much that they refuse to settle for less than someone who will spend their entire life trying to love them as much as you do. You know that no other man will never get there. But a man who will never stop trying is as close as you can get.
Posted by: Mark at October 16, 2007 10:38 AM
I wonder what the world would be like, were more men like that.
One helluva lot better off.
Posted by: Rick at October 16, 2007 12:16 PM
Most poignant. Reminds me of a lot of folks I knew from the back-woods of Minnesota: Say what you mean, mean what you say; Do what you say you are going to do, speak only of what you have done.
Posted by: mdmhvonpa at October 16, 2007 12:21 PM
The long awaited sequel to Christmas Armaments.
Posted by: Jim Ratajski at October 16, 2007 3:23 PM
Thinking of you and Celeste today, Tony. I have no words, but she is remembered.
Posted by: Danielle at October 19, 2007 10:52 AM
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